Grant,
I was thinking this morning about our ping-pong game last night. After you beat me three games in a row you got pretty confident that you could keep on winning. That’s when you started “trash-talking”. I wasn’t upset about the trash-talking, I know that you were just having fun.
But, when I came back and beat you the next 5 or 6 games in a row, you looked pretty upset. You were frustrated, and I would have been, too. But, in a way, I am glad it happened that way – because it gives us a chance to talk about a very important teaching in the Bible.
Boys your age loved to trash talk, brag on themselves, and try to make themselves look good in front of other people. It’s a normal thing – but it’s not a godly thing. God wants something better for you – he wants you to learn humility. And, if you can learn what it means to live as a humble person, God has promised to honor you – to show you his favor.
This was my experience in football. In 8th and 9th grade it was all about me and making myself look good. I ended up flat on my face both years, quitting the team in disgrace, and feeling like a loser. In 10th grade I had a different attitude, because God was at work in my heart and I was learning how to walk before him in humility. And God honored that humble attitude. The trophy that sits in your bedroom is a reminder of that.
I want to spend some time this week talking with you about the following verses. What do you think?
If you are interested in doing this I will take you out for breakfast or lunch one day this week and we can talk about it.
I love you, Dad
Proverbs 16:18 ~ Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
Proverbs 29:23 ~Pride brings a person low, but the lowly in spirit gain honor.
James 1:1 – 10
1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
4 You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
but shows favor to the humble.”
7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.